http://wivesinbloom.com/2012/05/dear-kathy-were-all-dealing-with-fears/ The Online Magazine Of the Christian Military Wives Ministry Fri, 26 Apr 2013 22:28:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.1 http://wivesinbloom.com/2012/05/dear-kathy-were-all-dealing-with-fears/#comment-11263 michele wilhite Fri, 25 May 2012 01:54:27 +0000 http://wivesinbloom.com/?p=2352#comment-11263 Dear daughter-in-law As a mom with a son deployed, i do know how your mother-in law feels. Alot of times I don't share with my daughter-in-law what I am experiencing. You may ask me why? Because my job is to encourage her--uplift her on her down days and let her know that someone is here to hold her up when she can;t do it on her own. she has been pretty ill since son left. I don't tell her the nights I have been walking the floors and praying-because after a few hrs of sleep--an inner feeling woke me up. I don't share with her the days that I can't get anything done because I don't have any motivation,or energy for heavy cleaning,or the gardening. I don't tell her that I need a push to get through the bad days. I do have other moms that help me with these things, they keep me up-and going. Maybe your mother-in law is worried sick, and doesn't have a support group-or prayer group to help her through this. maybe she doesn't know what to do. I send messages everyday to daughter in law/ how is your day going--what is new. she is involved in alot of things so it's easy to pick something to discuss everyday. now I am not telling you that she and I never talk about the deployment. we do--and we both are very sensitive to the needs of the other. I will be praying for your mother-in law honey. It sounds like she is just trying to find her way through this--like so many of us moms. good luck to you and your husband/ we are praying for him too. and thank you both for your service! Dear daughter-in-law
As a mom with a son deployed, i do know how your mother-in law feels.
Alot of times I don’t share with my daughter-in-law what I am experiencing. You may ask me why?
Because my job is to encourage her–uplift her on her down days and let her know that someone is here to hold her up when she can;t do it on her own. she has been pretty ill since son left.
I don’t tell her the nights I have been walking the floors and praying-because after a few hrs of sleep–an inner feeling woke me up. I don’t share with her the days that I can’t get anything done because I don’t have any motivation,or energy for heavy cleaning,or the gardening. I don’t tell her that I need a push to get through the bad days. I do have other moms that help me with these things, they keep me up-and going.
Maybe your mother-in law is worried sick, and doesn’t have a support group-or prayer group to help her through this. maybe she doesn’t know what to do.
I send messages everyday to daughter in law/ how is your day going–what is new. she is involved in alot of things so it’s easy to pick something to discuss everyday. now I am not telling you that she and I never talk about the deployment. we do–and we both are very sensitive to the needs of the other.
I will be praying for your mother-in law honey. It sounds like she is just trying to find her way through this–like so many of us moms.
good luck to you and your husband/ we are praying for him too.
and thank you both for your service!

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